Ack, I've been called to the principal's office!

On Friday I sent a note with Jakey to school for his teacher giving her my email address and asking her to email me if she had any concerns about Jakey and/or when her testing of his level in math and reading was done so we could discuss where he is. She emailed me right after school and said that she wanted to meet with me on Monday, was I available. I emailed her back telling her I can be, and then received an email from her saying to meet in the office because we're going to be meeting with the Vice Principal and the Academic Coach. Ack. She specifically says not to let this alarm me, but I am a little worried.

Honestly, I have no idea what to do with Jakey. I was never a student like him and I can't imagine having his challenges. School, especially elementary school, came very easily to me and I was a good student. Jakey is more of a challenge. I've mentioned before I can see some learning disabilities manifesting themselves and he has had a diagnosis of ADHD but we chose not to medicate, and it would take another round of testing and a long talk with a psychologist for me to even consider reconsidering my position on this. I don't like that label AT ALL. I don't think it's that accurate - I think it's more like "This Child Will Not Conform - ADHD".

Anyhow, I'm nervous. I asked Kevin to take the day off and go with me but he can't because he's hourly now and his 1 year (so he'll have personal time and vacation, etc.) isn't until February 15th. So I'm definitely going alone. I also want to go without Jayden so I'm not distracted or emotional (I cry sometimes when I nurse her, it makes my hormones wonky) and obviously Justin does not need to be there, my SIL is babysitting a little boy that's still a baby and I don't like having her watch two babies and my MIL is off but that's because she's supposed to be looking for a new job on Mondays so she changed her schedule, but we explained the situation to her and she agreed to babysit Jayden and Justin for us while I go to the meeting.

Then there is Kevin, he's mad at me for not recognizing Jakey needed help sooner. I wish he'd quit blaming me, trust me, I feel bad enough that Jakey has academic issues. Could I have dealt with them better/sooner? Probably, but he's just as legally able to enroll Jakey in whatever program he wants, etc. as I am. I think we're passive agressively frustrated with eachother though because I blame his genes for this, I know, I shouldn't but I do.

Anyhow, ugh, I've got knots in my stomach just thinking about tomorrow. Oh well, the worst case scenario is Jakey repeating 3rd grade which is not the end of the world because in almost any other state in the country he'd only be in 2nd grade anyways because his b-day is Oct 28th and our cut off is Dec 2nd here in CA.